‘Not everyone learns the same life lessons as you do, when you do.’ – Unknown
This is one of my favourite quotes. It’s taught me a lot about myself and others. Especially the lesson of patience.
We live in a world that is fast pace and seems to be speeding up.
We rush around. We rush ourselves. We rush each other.
It’s my belief that we need to start practising slowness.
Taking our time to do things well. Taking our time to think, and then speak. Taking our time to think, and then act.
It’s hard not to get swept up in other energy and adopt it as our own. But before you do this, I encourage you to not let go of your own energy.
There is more power in your own energy than in trying to use someone else’s
There’s no need to follow other people. Especially when it doesn’t feel right.
How many of us have followed the crowd or our friends despite a nagging uncomfortable feeling in the pit of our stomachs?
That’s because you’re ignoring your intuition. Your gut feelings.
They are there to warn you that something isn’t right. That you are attuned to a different path. It’s worth listening to your guts.
Once you can trust and act on your gut feelings, you’ll be living in flow. You’ll be living in aline with your truth, and honouring it.
The quote I mentioned above has stayed with me for many years because it represents staying true to yourself. Never worrying or comparing yourself to others.
To trust that what you’re doing, learning, achieving is exactly what you should be doing at any given moment.
Let me explain. When we see someone doing something that we would do in a completely different way, it’s easy to share our views and opinions. It’s easy to want to help them ‘do it better’. It’s hard not to walk over, take over the activity, and do it for them.
But why? Why do we feel the need to correct other people? Why do we need others to act and think as we do?
I imagine we all don’t like to be treated this way. So, what can we do to change?
And this applies to how we treat ourselves too.
How many of us quickly react to our perceived failures, saying negative things to ourselves under our breathe? Or wishing we were as skilled or knowledgable as our friends?
Before constantly judging yourself for every little thing you wish you could have done better, check how you are reacting to yourself.
How are you speaking to yourself?
Are you supportive and proactive to try again? Or are you dismissive and mean?
If the latter, why?
Would you speak this way to a friend? I hope not.
So, don’t speak to yourself in this way. You don’t deserve it. You deserve to know that there is never winning and losing, only winning and learning.
Any time you feel like you’ve failed, even in a tiny way, don’t.
You are learning, so be patient.
The things which you learn throughout your life will come to you at a completely different time to someone else. So something you learn today, your neighbour could have learn 20 years ago, or they will in 20 years time.
The point is, we are all living different lives and not everyone will have the same experiences as you in the same order and time frame as you. So, why compare?
There’s no sense in wishing you were better or different than you are, because you are having your own life experiences separately for everyone else anyway!
So, the next time to feel yourself wanting to correct someone else, or comment on their inability, or bully yourself due to your perceived slowness at learning something new, remember this quote, and use it to be at peace and honour where you’re at.
Be patient. Be kind. And remember; you are exactly where you need to be, always.