We all have those times in life when things seem hopeless. That there’s nothing more we can do. We’re done.
But, what if there was something that could be done to turn it all around?
What would be the One More Thing you could do?
It’s ok to feel sorry for ourselves, we’re only human! And it’s healthy to feel things. Just don’t stay there.
Don’t turn the pity you feel for yourself in hards times be what defines you and the rest of your life. Staying locked in that pity will simply continue to isolate you and will never make things better.
Give yourself permission to be human, to acknowledge the pain or misfortune, but don’t stay there.
Get the negativity out of your system, and then move forward.
I truly believe that, even in the darkest of times, there is always something which can be done.
And maybe you aren’t the one who will figure it out, maybe it is a time to ask for help.
This can also feel like an impossible task; asking for help. But if you’re feeling help-less then perhaps that is the time you reach out, and ask for guidance.
Speak about the problem you are having with friends, family and colleagues. They are people just like you and may have gone through the same thing or been challenged by the same problem. They could have the exact solution you new.
I also truly believe that everyone wants to be able to help others.
And, I expect, that if asked, you would be more than willing to help some one in need.
You are no exception.
People care, and people care about you.
You have a responsibility to get through whatever you are dealing with, and if that means finding help, then so be it.
It is strong to be vulnerable and ask for help. Never doubt that.
Pay attention to what people offer as a solution. Listen to them, properly.
Either, they will give you an answer which feels right, and which you can achieve, even if it takes a lot of work.
Or, they could give you an answer which does not sit right with you. You may not like their ideas.
This is a good thing; it shows you what you don’t want to do, and may inspire you.
Remember; give yourself time to be human, but don’t let yourself live in that pity or worry. That is a place of no creativity, no movement, no success.
Think again, and ask for help when you need it. Don’t suffer in silence. Trust others, and trust yourself to find the answers you need.
And in those moments, those times of not knowing what to do. Look outside of yourself for a while. Drop the struggle and pay attention to something else.
A good practise to use is gratitude. I’ve written about it before and I’m sure you’ve had other conversations or heard people speak about it many times.
But honest gratitude for what you have can really pull you out of a hole.
Reflecting on the most basic needs you have met every single day can bring you a lot of peace, and knowing not everyone has the same luxuries can end all self-pity and inspire you to help others.
The best thing to do when you feel you can’t help yourself; help others.
So, I challenge you, in those moments that feel hopeless, to prove yourself wrong. To figure out even the hardest of situations.
You can, and you will.